Father Can You Be DEAR?

Peeps,

I have many reasons for not liking being at home. One of the reasons is that I am happier when I am in my campus because I would not have to hear many family stories that will make me upset.

Next month is a month where my sister will be getting married. And guess what, my father too will re-marry another woman.

Here is the story, my parents divorced when I was in standard 4. My mother remarried a year later. Alhamdulillah the marriage last, up until now.

A year after my mother’s marriage, it was my father’s turn to tie the knot. So he remarried. But, it was unfortunate that the relationship did not last long. I don’t know when exactly they divorced, cause I do not really bother. Because when if I bother about it, it will definitely make my head spins. So better not to think of it.

Recently, months after not hearing from him, I was told that he wants to get married again. Well, I felt nothing. If it would make him feel good, then I am okay with it. If it’s not, don’t marry the lady, whoever she is.

But now, he and his marriage start to bother me and my sister because I don’t like his attitude of asking money from my sister.

My sister wants to get marry. She has to spend a lot just for her wedding. Yes, she is working. But she just started lecturing in a private college, only last year. So, she didn’t really have much money.

Yes she earns money now, but mind you, she had to work overnight for that. So dear father, it’s not fine that you are letting your daughter pay everything for her marriage. Isn’t that your responsibility to maintain her, up until she gets marry? Now you’ve neglected your responsibilities as a father. We are no longer maintained by you. Thank God that I have Ibu, Nenek and Kakak and others who are willing to assist me whenever needed.

I try to undertstand you father, even since I was so little to understand the whole family affairs. You divorced Ibu, that was not fine to me and kakak. But me and kakak, tried hard enough to adapt ourselves, growing up without a father. We told ourselves that we will study hard, to make a better living in the future.

And, we have proved to everyone that we are two good kids. Kakak now is a lecturer. Insha Allah, if it’s a good will, I will be a lawyer once graduated.

Yes, we don’t have you, to tell us what to do and what not to do. Lucky us that we have teachers who are willing to teach us about manners and ethics. Alhamdulillah, we are being good kids so far.

Arent you grateful that God has bestowed you with us, these two creatures?. Why would you give problems to these two kids.

We have suffered a lot. We didn’t show it to you that we are actually suffering, because we want to be strong. But it doesn’t mean that we are totally fine with whatever that you’ve done.

Yes, I am proud to tell the world that me and kakak are being very independent since we were little. We cried cause we were so sad, but lucky enough we managed to face the hurdles together.

Please, I am begging you, to at least make kakak feel good.

It’s true that, no matter what, you are still our father. Yes, we admit that (though I think that is so lame). But for one more timeI am begging you to change to be a better person for us. We want a great father, to look after us. We too, need a father to care for us. We’ve been taking care of ourselves for so long. And….it’s tiring, cause we need love from a father.

Now, can you be dear?

p/s--> i hope by now, you can understand why do I prefer not to go back home during the break. I am not trying to humiliate my father or anyone. But all I am asking is that everyone could learn that we all have responsibilites. Be responsible and do not neglect any. Cause surely, it will affect others.

Regards,

HHB,

He-Has-to-Change